Hello my friend…

A letter to the bullied

Hello my friend…

I’m writing this letter to the young man who stutters, or has an acne problem, or is just smaller than everyone else. To the young lady who never seems to know what to say, or may be carrying a few extra pounds, or who’s skin is a different color than everyone else in class.

You may not believe it, but once upon a time, I was the littlest kid in class. An only child with a sick mom, a sever speech impediment, coke-bottle glasses, and a thrift-store wardrobe…in other words, I was an easy target.

You know what I’m talking about.

Bullies made my life a nightmare from the 3rd grade, through most of high-school. With no real friends or defenders, it was a frightening, lonely way to grow up, and I still carry some of those scars, on my skin and on my heart, forty years later, and I always will.

So will you.

Bullies suck, and so does being bullied.

You don’t deserve it, you didn’t ask for it, and it’s not happening because there’s anything wrong with YOU. You are amazing. You are beautiful, and there is not another living soul on earth who is like you. That makes you a treasure beyond price.

Maybe your parents don’t understand, maybe your teachers and coaches were never bullied, and can’t relate, but you’re not alone.

You are SO not alone.

Your bullies are weak, and scared, and small. So small on the inside that the only thing that makes them feel good about themselves is to make someone else feel bad.

How sad is that?

But, you know what? There’s a gift in being bullied.

That can be hard to accept, believe me, I know.

But it’s true.

It can make you strong. It can make you brave. But most importantly, it can make you…kind.

And it’s not easy (but you’re used to things not being easy, aren’t you?)

You see, when you know what it feels like, the fear, the confusion, the betrayal, the pain…you can choose to let it make you bitter, to make you as small inside as the ones who hurt you, OR you can use it to guide how you treat others, how you speak to others in pain, how you protect and defend those weaker than you. How to choose compassion and mercy, over hate.

How you be exactly the kind of hero that you lay awake longing for.

Hate is easy, any small-minded weakling can hate. But love…love and kindness are the strongest powers in the universe, and when you have that strength, you cannot be beaten.

Because you…YOU…know.

And because you know, you have greatness in you.

You are developing a strength that many will never attain, no matter how fast, or smart, or rich, or pretty. A strength of heart, and of mind.

You will be able to see things others don’t, do things other’s can’t.

And the world needs you…desperately. They need you more and more every day, because it’s people like you…like US…that have the power to make the world a better place…because we know.

chef-perry-perkinsChoose Kindness, little hero, and hang in there.

It will get better…I promise.

Your friend,

Chef Perry
chefperryperkins.com

If you’ve know what I’m talking about, please share this.

If not, share it anyway, you never know who’s reading.

C’mon Amazon.com: Help a parent out!

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So, this post is a little off-topic, but I’ll try to make it as relevant as I can.

Just got an iPad mini for my daughter and, after loading the Amazon Video app, discovered there is no way to organize purchased movies by category (mine vs. hers) or even by descriptive folders.

This is crazy!

I have a LOT of movies, many of them are PG-13 or R Rated, and I don’t want her scrolling through those, just to find the ones I buy for her! (and I buy her a LOT of movies, because she has me wrapped around her little finger…)

Since foodie-friendly movies often have scenes that “sizzle” (and I don’t mean on the grill), as well as include the native language of the kitchen, this is unacceptable to me.

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The last thing I want my daughter shouting in the middle of the grocery store is, “IT WAS f****** MOLTEN!” 😉

Nor do I want her mother to beat me to death with a bag of frozen peas.

(see…relevant!)

I read a thread on the Amazon Forum, which started on Aug 23, 2015, titled, “organizing video library” where dozens of paying customers have asked for this feature, and yet after almost 2 years there has not been a single response from Amazon!

C’mon guys!

This irked me…and I don’t like to be irked. Being a chef, you can probably guess that I don’t do “irked” well.

Now, I love Amazon, and it’s my #1 movie and TV show source of choice (I’m a long-time Prime member), but I know how business works. Profit = priority, lol, so in that light, I sent a message to the Bezoites, letting them know that I am (much to my disappointment) boycotting movie and television purchases from Amazon until this issue has been addressed, nor will I re-up my Prime Membership.

Drastic times call for drastic measure, and all that.

The point of all this personal angst, here on my ChefPerry page, is that I will be posting the link to this message on various related boards in hopes that other will send Amazon the same message (below) from their own accounts, and share it with others.

That’s right…I’m starting a “movement”…protests and rioting coming soon!

I feel so Micheal Moore! (but I’m hoping the nausea will pass before dinnertime…)

Anyhoo…here’s the text of my message to Amazon.com, along with screen shots to help folks post it.

TEXT:

(Note: this text has been edited to fit the word-count limits in Amazon’s message feature. If you add anything, it might not fit. Definitely feel free to personalize it, tho!)

Amazon.com: Help a parent out!

Hey guys,

Just got an iPad for my daughter and, after loading the Amazon Video app, discovered there is no way to organize purchased movies by category (Mine vs. hers) or by folder. This is crazy! I have a LOT of movies, many of them are PG-13 or R Rated, and I don’t want her scrolling through those, just to find the ones I buy for her.

I read a thread on the Amazon Forum, which started on Aug 23, 2015, titled, “organizing video library” where dozens of paying customers have asked for this, and yet after almost 2 years there has not been a single response from Amazon!

C’mon guys!

I love Amazon, and you’re my #1 movie and TV show of source (I’m a long-time Prime member), but I know how business works. Profit = priority, lol, so in that light, I am (much to my disappointment) boycotting all movie and television purchases from Amazon until this issue has been addressed, nor will I re-up my Prime Membership.

Please don’t make me do that! 😉

Your fan,

-Perry

HOW TO SEND THIS MESSAGE

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Open your Amazon account page, scroll down to the bottom, and click on “Contact Us”
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Choose “Digital Services”, then select “Amazon Video”, “How-to Questions”, and paste in the title of the message.
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Copy and Paste the message I posted above (or your own!), and click “Send E-Mail”
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If your feedback went through, you’ll see this message!

C’mon America…

Let’s make Amazon Video great again!

(Don’t make me make a whiny movie…)

~Chef Perry

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Notes from the Hipster Coast

mozzarella-stuffed-meatball-pasta-2Had someone question the “authenticity and integrity” of a recipe I posted a few days ago. (This is this week’s “issue to be outraged about”, here on the Hipster Coast…)

First of all…go find a girlfriend, dude. Get a pen-pal, join the chess club, something…it’s just food!

Second, I can’t help but wonder if he eats cheese or sour cream on his tacos, meatballs with his spaghetti, or anything on his pizza but cheese and sauce?

Has he ever had a “California Roll” or General Tsao Chicken?

It’s amazing how much some people think they know, lol.

Okay, muzzling the snark box…

~Chef Perry

 

On Recipes

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Sometimes, when someone gets especially snarky about a vague direction or ingredient amount, or complains about not having enough “step by step” pictures in my recipes, I smile and think about this little book.

This belonged to my dad, Chef Frank Perkins (and he probably got it from HIS dad, who was also a chef.)

He just called it “The Reminder” (copyright 1909) and it was the only “cookbook” he owned. He kept it in his knife roll, and it went everywhere he cooked. He gave it to me when he retired.

IMG_6030As you can see, there are no pictures, no measurements, just brief descriptions of the elements of finished dishes. Got a chicken in the freezer? The book “reminds” you of the various dishes you can make…and assumes that you know how.

I learned to cook many, many dishes out of this little book.

So, if I don’t seem to get my knickers in a twist every time someone gets all uppity about my usage of  vague terms like “a pinch”, “a handful”, or “a little bit more”….you might understand, lol.

~Chef Perry
chefperryperkins.com

Beer and A Big Mixer

Today’s post from my pal, Chef Chris…

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I received a text from my friend Terry this morning. He needed help with his new to him commercial stand mixer. He is finally starting his baking business. Terry is by far the best baker I have ever known. His bread will make your meal. His cakes are a religious experience. His wife and family have finally given him the push to start what he has been talking about for year.Terry's bread

Terry picked me up on the home from getting the mixer. First we ran over to Hawaiian Time a little Hawaiian restaurant for plate lunch and then next door to the Growler Run one of my favorite beer places. The the Growler Run always has a great selection of beers. Terry likes beer even more than I do and it’s always great to enjoy a pint with him. Today I had a Suicide Squeeze from Fort George. It’s a great…

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Why I hate the “Like” button…

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I think the “like” button is my least favorite feature of Facebook.

I’m ego-maniacal enough to just ASSUME everyone’s going to LIKE my posts…what I WANT is conversation. Why did you like it? What memory or experience did it trigger for you personally? What does it mean in YOUR life, that it may not in mine, and what can you add?

Frankly, a “thumbs up” is a pretty pathetic, lazy form of communication, and communication is why I signed up for FB in the first place.

And, yes, I can certainly how it’s a time-saver, and easier than writing out one’s thought (but seriously, even an “LOL” is less ambiguous than that damn button.

I’d just rather see more people interested in IMPROVING their written communication skills, than just band-aide them with a “Like” button. If I was interested in just getting applause, I’d do theatre again (shudder)… 😉  

The ability to express ones self through words, much like cooking, is a passion of mine. And, unfortunately, we’re de-evolving into a fast-food nation in both arenas.

If FACEBOOK requires too much effort, I kinda weep for the future (well, okay, I weep for the future for a lot of reasons, but that’s a whole ‘nuther post…)

JUST to clarify (which YOUR conversations are helping me do, lol) I’m NOT suggesting that every meme, puppy picture, or kitty video, requires a heartfelt, deeply considered response. I’m talking about when someone posts something MEANINGFUL, a joy, a pain, something (hopefully) thought-provoking. I think something that is clearly important to the person posting, and sparks a thought in response, deserves more respect that a “thumbs up.”

On an interesting (for me, anyway) entomological side-note: The “thumbs up” originated as an air-force gesture, meaning “ready to fly” between a pilot and ground crew, before take-off. The reason this was necessary is that neither the pilot nor the crewman directing him could HEAR each other over the noise, so they had to adopt hand gestures when conversation was impossible.

Strangely appropriate.

So, I’m going to try only “liking” a post if I’m willing to leave a comment, even just a brief one, as well.

Who’s with me?

~Chef P

PS- If you “like” THIS post, without commenting… you’re a jerk.

Just…shut up, please?

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SO tired of these outraged posts telling me why I can’t eat or shop at this or that restaurant or chain, because of the TERRIBLE things their owners do or believe.

You know what? I go to church to support my moral values. I eat at a place because I like their food.

maxresdefaultI’m not there to join them big game hunting, or alleged homophobia, or because they’re mean to chickens, or whatever next week’s national moral outrage is going to be. They make food, I buy food, I eat food.

THAT is the beginning and end of our relationship.

You don’t change the world by carrying a sign, you change it by being the change you want to see.

And, before anyone drags out that tired old rag, “but your supporting what they do…”, I’ll tell you this (as a guy who’s spent a lot of years in and around the industry)…

If not liking a CEO’s habits, hobbies, or personal opinions are going to offend you into these posts and make you advocate a boycott…you better burn your cash and start raising all your own food. Stop eating out, stop buying clothes, for God’s sake – don’t vote.

No more TV, no cars, no more movies…do you see where this is going?

‘Cause if you dig deep enough, and really, really want it, you’ll find something that offends you in everyone.

Is “change through bullying” really the world we’re wanting to create?

And if you’re outraged about the sandwich shop, but still buy those jeans that your teen’s been whining for all year…well, frankly, you’re a hypocrite. Unless, of course the shooting of a big game animal is somehow more evil than sweatshops full of child slave laborers.

Don’t like the foie gras? Don’t order it. But who they hell are you to tell ME not to?

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And it’s not about “freedom of speech”…we all know that you have the right to public expression, and I support that. But just because we can do something, doesn’t always mean we should.

No one’s saying you can’t have an opinion, just use it effectively. Present your arguments to your friends, your family, people who might actually be influenced by your opinion.

‘Cause, honestly…did a sidewalk screamer with a sign (or snarky Facebook meme) ever really change your opinion on anything? No, it simply makes the person with the sign, or the post, feel good.

It’s mental masturbation…and it makes folks go blind.

So, if you choose to be selectively outraged (but still want your half-caf soy caramel lattes) accept the fact that you can be bought for a price, and please stop annoying the rest of us with your insecure “Look at me, I’m offended and that makes me hip” twaddle.

Just…shut up.

Please?

~Chef Perry